Women Who Can't Orgasm
‘ Female Anorgasmia’ is the situation where a woman may have no difficulty in achieving an orgasm when alone self pleasuring but for some reason can not abandon herself to climax with a man or indeed with anybody in her presence. This is called “situational anorgasmia” It is quite common, affecting as many as one in five women at some stage or other in their lives. Knowing that they far from being unique is often a comfort for women with this distressing condition.
There are several approaches to treatment. Lifestyle needs to be looked at – diet, exercises, smoking, drinking, medicines – particularly the SSRI’s. You and your partner will probable need to discuss this with a Sex Counsellor but some people advocate the use of a vibrator by the man on the woman or doing whatever it is she does when alone self pleasuring. You might invite your partner to watch you while you do the things to yourself that you most enjoy.
Once the ginks are broken and the woman learns to have an orgasm in the presence of her partner then she can usually move on from there to having organisms during intercourse. Some setbacks are inevitable. Additional clitoral stimulation may always be required.
There is another more serious form of female anorgasmia called “Global anorgasmia” where she cannot experience orgasm under any circumstances either alone or with a partner. I will return to this another day. It is often associated with taking certain prescribed medications most particularly the neuroleptics.
In 2016 the FDA approved a drug called Addyi or flibanserin. It is also erroneously referred to as “Pink Viagra.” This medication is supposed to improve female sexual response and, by extension one supposes, her ability to reach orgasm. However, when you read the research done on flibanserin you may conclude as I did that the advantages it brings are either nebulous at best or non-existent at worst.